Damage Control: 5 Steps to refocusing on your goals.

The words I Quit written on a yellow sticky pad of paper written in black.

How often do you think this when the road gets tough?

Many times when we get our bright ideas, we are excited and caught up in the beginning of our creativity. Although, we must remember executing and then traveling through the process to reach a goal has many stumbling blocks. It is those moments that determine our victory. Do I get frustrated and give up, procrastinate, or function sub par? None of those choices will get us where we want to be. We must determine out the gate, if this is what we really want, that quitting is not an option. We must determine in our heart and mind to reach the finish line.finish-line-300x199

This means we should have a plan of strategic moves in the times of discouragement. After-all, it happens to the best of us! Sure there are those rare times when we set out to do a project or start the path towards our dream and everything flows without any interruptions, but this is not the norm.  Life says that anything worth having or building does not come with ease. It comes with much preparation, resolve and perseverance! Let me ask you, do you have a strategic plan of action for those moments of discouragement?

I recently had a challenge even with this blog and starting my YouTube channel. It seems though as soon as I had everything set up and ready to go, the flood gates of interruptions were opened. Everything that could come up in my life did. Nothing bad, just unexpected business and family issues that I did not have before. I looked up and two months had gone by without me blogging or working on my channel. I had to recognize what was happening and strategize so that it does not happen again…. When you’ve fallen off your game, here are 5 steps to getting your focus back!

  1. Remember why you started the project in the first place and list the benefits:  Remind yourself why you had enough creativity and ingenuity to begin this project or goal in the first place. Be specific and write it down. You may need the reminder when you run into road blocks.

  2. Forgive yourself: its easy to camp out in guilt or loserville, beating yourself up and making things worse or you can decide to put it all behind you and continue on, while learning where and how you missed the mark.

  3. Have make-up days or times already in your calendar: Not only should you have tasks in your calendar, but primary or important tasks should have a make-up day/time scheduled as well, that will allow you to still reach your goal in the midst of unexpected interruptions.

  4. Put others on notice!: Share your goal with family and anyone else who could possibly be an interruption. You do not have to go into specific details, but just let them know you are in an important season where focus is needed and you may not be as available as you once were. It will prepare them for the word NO.

  5. Make peace with saying NO!: This is still a hard one for me, but we must recognize our seasons in life and know that we cannot do everything all the time. If you have started a business, a blog, gone back to school, or in your first year or two of marriage; you have to be fully engaged and focused. That means saying NO to those things that will steal your focus. Those who truly care about us will understand. It also creates accountability and may even excite those who will cheer us on!

Now get back up and get going! Here is the bonus tip: Pray, Pray, and Pray some more. Ask God to lead you and He will. He loves when we are doing things that bring Him glory!

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Do you feel like your life or mind is a messy room?

There was a guy I knew once, he was homeless and struggling with addiction. My hubby and I, by the leading of the Holy Spirit took him in. Of course the guy had his story, we all have a story. When you work in the type of ministry as we do, you hear many of them. The trick is getting to the TRUE story. It is our human nature to tell our story from a place of victimization. Somehow we are masters at leaving out our part that caused us to be in the situations we find ourselves in. Knowing this, my hubby and I are very prayerful and try our best to be as welcoming to the Holy Spirit as humanly and spiritually possible. Letting Him know we need Him desperately at all times. After-all, helping people is a dirty job, but someone has to do it! As Christ followers, we are called to get dirty, in the mud and even suffer a bit with the spiritually, emotionally, mentally and even physically lost and suffering. Well without going into all of this particular guy’s personal struggle. It became obvious that he wanted all the benefits of help (roof, money, food, etc…), but did not want to own his part or change the way he “did life”.

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I remember when I went through a trial years ago where many things in my life that were sinful and superficial were stripped from me and left me and my children living in a home for women. Although, I gave up my apartment at the time and went there voluntarily, it was still one of the hardest times in my life. This place was one step up from a shelter. They gave you a roof, 3 meals a day, life skill classes (which I hated) and helped you get training and/or find employment. I just went there to start from scratch and have my life built on God’s foundation and not my own. I could tell you much more, that would singe your eyelashes, but for the sake of this post, let’s just say I suffered greatly. It was horrible, painful, and many times I wanted to just close my eyes and not wake up. God was redefining my life. He had to tear down and rebuild, but it was a very painful process. A necessary and  key ingredient of this process was, I was ready to just surrender. Even though I did not understand every little thing that was happening at the time, I knew it had to be God. Certain things were not making any sense. People I had helped for years were suddenly unable to return the favor. I was completely left on my own, it was me and God. He was showing me He was my provider, my protector and my deliverer.

Many times we want the blessings and all the promises of Christ, but are not willing to surrender or change. We want to profess we are believers without a true transformational journey in Him. We want all the gain with no pain (sorry I couldn’t resist0750). It’s like a child who is told to clean his room and then he’ll go fishing with Dad, so he stuffs all the mess under the bed and in the closet and gives his room the impression of being clean, when actually there are loads of hidden clutter that has not been properly dealt with. The child gets angry with Dad when his mess is discovered and is told, “No Fishing!” The child then pouts, protests as if he deserves a reward for his disobedience. Does this sound familiar?

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I always say, adults are no more than big children running around the earth pouting and protesting when we can’t get our way, but refuse to do things God’s way. You can pout, protest and shout, but is it getting you anywhere? Why do we expect to still receive the promises of God when we will not truly allow Him to be Lord in our lives? I would say it’s easier to just surrender to God and His process in your life. It may be inconvenient, you may feel a little pain, but it is Sooooooo worth it in the end. He will transform you from the inside out and your life will be a more precious and pleasant experience to live each day. Is your life or mind a messy room? What areas of yourself are you still holding that you need to surrender to Christ? Start with praying and repentance, being honest with yourself and deciding to give up laziness, that should be a great start to allow God to work in you for His good. #SomethingToThinkAbout

5 Weapons To Kill The Procrastinator In You!

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It is almost like a guilty pleasure or a frenemy we love to hang out with. I should know. I used to be the queen of waiting until the last-minute for many important things. I would especially wait until the last-minute for things I really did not enjoy doing, but knew they must get done. The sad part is I would many times have plenty of time to get things done, but it’s like this little demon was whispering in my ear and coaching me to wait until I had just the right amount of NOT ENOUGH TIME! 10-Free-Smiley-Face-With-Black-Eye

Sometimes it was even a bit of an adrenaline rush to see if I could pull it off and I did about 80% of the time. Although, many times I did not  make the deadline; whether it was a doctor’s appointment, class assignment, making dinner, etc… I would even lie to myself and tell myself there’s not enough time.

Well one day I decided this has to stop. Yes, I’m getting things done, but how much more efficient could I be if I stopped the procrastination? Also, make no mistake many successful people are covert procrastinators. I should know, I was one. To others I seemed rather efficient, but I knew I had a problem. Then there came a day when my responsibilities increased and I had more things to do, so if I continued this path of, “I bet I can trick time!!,” I would fail miserably and I knew it. It was time to face my demon and kick it to the curb!!!!82-Angry-3D-Smiley-Shouting-Free-Vector-Clipart-Illustration

I was about to commit murder, Last Minute Lucy had danced her last tango with me!!! Here are five weapons to kill the procrastinator in you…

  1. bow-and-arrow2Be honest

    with you: Admit to yourself that the father of procrastination is pure laziness. God already knows, so you might as well come clean. “The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.” -Proverbs 13:4

  2. Repent: Repentance is POWERFUL! Tell The Lord you are sorry and you do not want this in your life anymore and ask Him to help you overcome this wicked habit. Afterall, it’s keeping you from doing great things!♥
  3. Resolve that you will tackle the hard things first and foremost! Be brave, Get’er done! (In my redneck voice…lol)
  4. Become a Planner: Start planning out your weeks and/or days ahead of time and stick with it. This will make a big difference in your life and it’s kind of fun and will make you feel more productive. You will be a manager of your time instead of your time being your attacker! (Find me on Instagram. I have a lot of encouragement for organization and planning, @Inspirational_Pink )
  5. Accountability: Last, but not least, grab yourself a couple of accountability partners to hold you accountable! The bible tells us to confess our faults one to another that we may be healed(James 5:16)! Accountability is healing. Make sure it’s someone you can’t intimidate into shutting up and leaving you alone, but who will encourage you to stick to your goal!

When you seriously implement these weapons to destroy the procrastinator in you, you will see amazing results that will lead you to victory! Remember change is sometimes a journey and even if you fall off the horse, the faster you get back up and begin again, the better. You can never be perfect, but you can always Be Better!

Only Happiness and Positivity allowed!!!♥

We live in a culture now where everyone is trying to focus only on positivity and happiness. Well, that can work against you if you are not careful. A well balanced productive person and/or great leader is one who is aware of the strengths and weaknesses not only of themselves, but also those on their team. In other words, we must look at the negatives or our weaknesses and have the wisdom to use them to our advantage and reach our goals.

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annoyedI see posters like this circulating all around social media and it sounds like it makes sense, but it is simply not biblical.  Not only do we need to face the uncomfortable and hard things about ourselves, but we also are called to deal with difficult and sinful people. Jesus spent most of his time with the sick, poor and even His enemies. I do not believe it was predicated on them to “lift Jesus higher.”confused

We must be careful not to let the humanistic brainwashing strategies of the culture influence our mentality and attitudes as believers and disciples of Christ. We have to remember that we are called the Body Of Christ for a reason. We compliment one another. God uses our weaknesses/negatives as well as strengths/positives for His glory. He said His strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:8-10). That goes against everything the world teaches! Yes we are to look on the bright side and think on good things, although, we also are called to examine ourselves, face our sinful nature and trust God to cover us where we have no control over our deficiencies. We are called to deal with the broken hearted, unlovable, the poor, the weak, the hungry, the downtrodden, etc… That does not sound like a bunch that will lift me higher, I must look to Christ to lift me higher. Of course, God will also bring encouragers in our life. He gives us those brothers and sisters in Christ who lift our spirits, but that does not mean we neglect or reject those who can offer us nothing. Remember, in all things we must rely on The Holy Spirit to give us balance and wisdom. A negative + a positive can = a positive! Therefore, do not be quick to hop on the Positive/Happy Train with the world. We need The joy of The Lord to sustain us and “lift us higher”, not this trendy positivity and happiness that is fleeting.

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“I Don’t Know!”😩😩😩😩😖

More often than not as human beings we pride ourselves on all of our knowledge. Now don’t get me wrong, knowledge is very powerful. We know the Bible teaches, “my people perish for lack of knowledge.” Although, when our heaping up of knowledge stands in the way of God truly speaking to us and changing us, knowledge becomes our bondage and our own intellect our enemy.

Although, in our knowing, we must be led by The Holy Spirit. For He knows ALL things. Our ” knowing” cannot compare to God’s Knowing. He gives us the understanding of what we are to know and the wisdom to apply it. Therefore, never be hesitant to say, “I just do not know.” This is a sign of humility and God can then work mightily in our lives. For when we always want to seem as though we know, we tie God’s hand from directing us to authentic truth of His Word and wisdom. Humility shows Him respect and He can come in and help us to see what was unseen even with all our knowledge.

Come on, let us be more hasty in admitting we don’t know than assuring we know. God gives grace to the humble, but resist the proud. Many times “I don’t know” are the most powerful words ever spoken in a circumstance because The Almighty rushes to your rescue.💕

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Get Moving & Be Better!!♥

You do not need Christ to be successful.

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When I read some of the writings by heretics, secular motivational speakers, philosophers, gurus, etc… I see that many of them are using bible scripture to strengthen their teachings. This is alarming. Why, you say? Well, God’s Word IS true. He also, created a biblical principle that rains on the just and the unjust alike; which is seedtime and harvest. What about this scripture, “Give and it shall be given unto you, etc…” The bible teaches that “whatever a man sows, that shall he also reap.” Ironically, what has happened is the world has caught on that biblical principles are great teachings and they work when applied in a person’s life. Being a Christ follower is not a prerequisite. Therefore, they practice these principles, aside from The true God who created them, and seem to have great success. Some of these teachers even act like they made up these principles. It’s indicative of human nature, to not want Jesus telling us what to do with our lives, we just want His blessings. The sad part is they reap these harvests because God is a just God and true to His word, but they end up with a false sense of success and blessing. Also, trust me, satan is on the scene helping them to take credit for all “their” wisdom and success. Therefore, I beg to differ with those who say, “you cannot have a successful life without God…” I dare to say, oh yes you can! According to The world’s definition of success, many people now and in times past, have lived their whole lives enjoying a decent life without God. They are educated, they have a great career, financial freedom, a great family, they are able to travel and are privileged with many other enjoyments. Oh sure, they have struggled with a few life tragedies, no different from the rest of us, but they get by and carry on. They are even impressive on how much they love and care about others and give of their time and money to help humanitarian efforts in their communities or around the world. They are a “good person” in the eyes of many, but there is just one problem. They have rejected Jesus Christ and have decided not to follow Him and this one greatest variable makes everything else worthless. They will be hailed at their funeral as a great person and end up in the lake of fire. The prideful and arrogant heart cannot accept the truth that we were created to worship God The Father, through His Son Jesus Christ. Yes, you were made for God. He created you for Himself. Any success without Him will leave you ultimately sorrowful. If you don’t believe me, ask the rich young ruler in the bible.

Matthew 19:16-22 (NKJV)

Jesus Counsels the Rich Young Ruler

16 Now behold, one came and said to Him, “Good Teacher, what good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?”

17 So He said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. But if you want to enter into life, keep the commandments.”

18 He said to Him, “Which ones?”

Jesus said,

You shall not murder,’ ‘You shall not commit adultery,’ ‘You shall not steal,’ ‘You shall not bear false witness,’ 19 ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”

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The young man said to Him, “All these things I have kept from my youth. What do I still lack?”

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Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.”

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But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.

How about you? How do you define a successful life, a great life? What is more important to you, how the world views you or how God does? Satan and the world’s system has made it trendy to kick Jesus out, but keep His stuff!!! Do not fall in that camp. I encourage you to not let the world define your life and success and please never try to have success without God. Words can’t describe a life filled with His guidance and presence. I would not trade Him for all the success or money this world has to offer.♥