Do you feel like your life or mind is a messy room?

There was a guy I knew once, he was homeless and struggling with addiction. My hubby and I, by the leading of the Holy Spirit took him in. Of course the guy had his story, we all have a story. When you work in the type of ministry as we do, you hear many of them. The trick is getting to the TRUE story. It is our human nature to tell our story from a place of victimization. Somehow we are masters at leaving out our part that caused us to be in the situations we find ourselves in. Knowing this, my hubby and I are very prayerful and try our best to be as welcoming to the Holy Spirit as humanly and spiritually possible. Letting Him know we need Him desperately at all times. After-all, helping people is a dirty job, but someone has to do it! As Christ followers, we are called to get dirty, in the mud and even suffer a bit with the spiritually, emotionally, mentally and even physically lost and suffering. Well without going into all of this particular guy’s personal struggle. It became obvious that he wanted all the benefits of help (roof, money, food, etc…), but did not want to own his part or change the way he “did life”.

victim mentality quote

I remember when I went through a trial years ago where many things in my life that were sinful and superficial were stripped from me and left me and my children living in a home for women. Although, I gave up my apartment at the time and went there voluntarily, it was still one of the hardest times in my life. This place was one step up from a shelter. They gave you a roof, 3 meals a day, life skill classes (which I hated) and helped you get training and/or find employment. I just went there to start from scratch and have my life built on God’s foundation and not my own. I could tell you much more, that would singe your eyelashes, but for the sake of this post, let’s just say I suffered greatly. It was horrible, painful, and many times I wanted to just close my eyes and not wake up. God was redefining my life. He had to tear down and rebuild, but it was a very painful process. A necessary and  key ingredient of this process was, I was ready to just surrender. Even though I did not understand every little thing that was happening at the time, I knew it had to be God. Certain things were not making any sense. People I had helped for years were suddenly unable to return the favor. I was completely left on my own, it was me and God. He was showing me He was my provider, my protector and my deliverer.

Many times we want the blessings and all the promises of Christ, but are not willing to surrender or change. We want to profess we are believers without a true transformational journey in Him. We want all the gain with no pain (sorry I couldn’t resist0750). It’s like a child who is told to clean his room and then he’ll go fishing with Dad, so he stuffs all the mess under the bed and in the closet and gives his room the impression of being clean, when actually there are loads of hidden clutter that has not been properly dealt with. The child gets angry with Dad when his mess is discovered and is told, “No Fishing!” The child then pouts, protests as if he deserves a reward for his disobedience. Does this sound familiar?


I always say, adults are no more than big children running around the earth pouting and protesting when we can’t get our way, but refuse to do things God’s way. You can pout, protest and shout, but is it getting you anywhere? Why do we expect to still receive the promises of God when we will not truly allow Him to be Lord in our lives? I would say it’s easier to just surrender to God and His process in your life. It may be inconvenient, you may feel a little pain, but it is Sooooooo worth it in the end. He will transform you from the inside out and your life will be a more precious and pleasant experience to live each day. Is your life or mind a messy room? What areas of yourself are you still holding that you need to surrender to Christ? Start with praying and repentance, being honest with yourself and deciding to give up laziness, that should be a great start to allow God to work in you for His good. #SomethingToThinkAbout


Forget a fifth grader, are you smarter than God?

There is no wisdom and knowledge that is more life changing than that of our Lord’s. When you spend time in prayer and study in His word, you are training yourself to live an enriching and Godly life and how to impart that enrichment to others. God’s ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than our thoughts. You cannot give people what you do not have yourself. Be a student of, a sister and a brother of Christ, that you may truly be a blessing to others. Try to never give people your carnal or worldly wisdom or advice, it profits them nothing. Instead find out what God says about every situation. #Bible #JesusKnowsBetter #StudyTheBible #KinleyPink #InspirationalPink ♥


Have you seen or witnessed how great I am lately?

Contrary to popular belief and the “low self esteem” psychology, I believe much of our misery as humans comes from our unrealistic view of ourselves. As a matter of fact, it is our constant focus on self that causes us so much grief. According to my studies of God’s word, it seems we just have too high of an opinion of ourselves out the gate, which leads to much disappointment and heartache. The pride of man is consistently looking to himself for answers instead of looking to God. We pride ourselves on our strengths and self sufficiency. We see ourselves through a pair of thick rose colored glasses that are seemingly unbreakable. The ironic thing is those glasses only work on us and maybe we see our children through them, but that’s a whole different blog…lol  It is all of our nature to think we are WAY more fabulous than we truly are. We are so deceived we convince ourselves that our sin is even fabulous. First, let’s look at what God’s word says about our condition.

Mark 7:20-23New King James Version (NKJV)

20 And He said, “What comes out of a man, that defiles a man. 21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within and defile a man.”

Now these are the words of Jesus himself. I think Jesus knows me better than I could ever know myself. Let’s go to the bible again…

Jeremiah 17:9New King James Version (NKJV)

“The heart is deceitful above all things,
And desperately wicked;
Who can know it?

If you still think you are all that and a bag of chips and a KitKat, but by the grace of God, here is another…

Matthew 15:15-20New King James Version (NKJV)

15 Then Peter answered and said to Him, “Explain this parable to us.”

16 So Jesus said, “Are you also still without understanding? 17 Do you not yet understand that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and is eliminated? 18 But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. 19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.20 These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.”

Don’t you just love The Word of God, it just bears witness of itself! You may try to dispute truth when it shows up once, even twice if you are really stubborn, but 3 times? When Adam sinned in the garden (Genesis Chapter 3) he caused mankind separation from God and now you and I are born in sin, we have an inherent sin nature that houses our soul; also known as the flesh and it gets us in so much trouble. Although, the good news is Jesus came as a ransom for our sin, He paid it all (1 Peter 3:18), to save our souls from the penalty of sin and damnation. He died that we may live once again in unity with our heavenly Father as it was before the fall of man. Jesus paid it all and offers us restoration with The Creator of the universe, our Father in heaven!

Now that brings us back to what was said at the beginning of this blog entry. I’m not being mean, but you are not that great, I am not that great, we all need Christ to make us righteous, for in and of ourselves we are sinful creatures with an evil sinful nature. My definition of good and great cannot compare with God’s standard and we can never meet His standard of righteousness. We just can’t, the old testament proved that and that’s why Christ came. Therefore, do not think of yourself more highly than you should (Romans 12:3) and you won’t be so disappointed and discouraged. Look to Christ and know that you need Him in everything you do because His strength is made perfect in your weakness. No talent, good looks, intelligence of any kind can make you righteous. It’s like putting perfume on a pig, it’s still a pig. I will say as Paul the Apostle said, I boast in my weakness!!!! Praise God Christ is my greatness!! Without Him, I am not great or good and it’s perfectly okay…

2 Corinthians 12:9New King James Version (NKJV)

And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Mind Bubble…

If you find yourself being mean and/or cruel to your own spouse, it’s time to ask God to help change you and stop focusing on them. As Christians we are called to do the right thing even when others do not or don’t deserve it…♥ #BeChristLike #Pray Do not stoop to the fleshly level. If you do the right thing God will change the situation or give you a way of escape.

1 Corinthians 10:13New King James Version (NKJV)

13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

Ugly is Ugly, just admit it and move on…

It is not until we are willing to identify, admit and face the ugly reality of our sin that God can come in and redeem, heal and restore us unto righteousness. His righteousness through Christ Jesus is a gift from Him, that way none of us can boast (Ephesians 2:8-9). Face it, sin is ugly, but no sin is worthy of us living in shame and/or guilt. God is able to give us beauty for ashes. Although, we cannot for one minute justify, belittle, or gloss over the truth of sin. We must view sin according to God’s standards not the world’s or our standards. Decide who is your authority. Is it this world, the government, your family, your friends? As Christ followers we must decide that God defines what is sin and what is wrong, not us or anyone else.
“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” Once we are willing to face the ugly truth of sin in our lives and look into the mirror saying, “Yes I was or I am a (fill in the blank) or whatever, but God has cleansed me from all unrighteousness and I can walk as a child of light with my eyes on Jesus, shutting the mouth of the devil because I am no longer ashamed, but what the devil meant for harm God will use it for His glory!!!! God can use whatever the devil was trying to bury us with!!!! BUT first, we must let go of our pride, guilt, and shame and admit the wretchedness of our sin. Sin does not become ok or not as bad, just because I did it or are doing it!
No one of us is better than the other, we have all fallen short. Do not give satan satisfaction by glossing over your sin. Come clean, admit your sin and faults so God can set you free and He can freely move in your life.♥

Beware of “love.” It does fail

Beware of “love”, It does fail, even in the church…The root of rejecting God is a sandwich of Pride-Power-Arrogance.  It is no different from satan being thrown out of the heavens for wanting to be God. He wanted the same power God has. When we want that same power (even unknowingly) and to remain in complete control, our subconscious reflex is to reject Christ. To reject Him, His Word, and His way. The first action is to eliminate sin, satan, and hell.  If there is no sin, there is no satan, no hell; so no need for repentance or a savior. Eliminating Christ, eliminates accountability, conviction, and correction.

Without The True God, Jesus Christ, there is no accountability, but still a need for peace and love. Man then creates a worldly religion of service to a false god of false love (2 Timothy 3). Everything becomes admissible under the guides of “love.”  Living under this false love, everything is admissible as long as it makes yourself and/or others happy. Christ’s love is serving God and serving others. Serving others through God is obedience to God, spreading the gospel, The Good News, making disciples of Christ and contending for the faith. Serving God is preaching and teaching The Truth, The Holy Word of The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. It is feeding the poor, healing the sick, caring for orphans and widows, etc…

Worldly love is serving satan by serving self.  Seeking self fulfillment apart from Jesus of Nazareth is serving satan. This is a false love that seeks its own way while promoting peace and togetherness. Worldly love is always driven by pride arrogance and self-gratification. Worldly love easily tosses Christ’s love aside, it’s too constrictive, too rigid, and too much to answer to. This “love” is broad, tolerant, self-indulgent, and arrogantly peaceful. This false gospel of love, peace and joy is seducing spirits that are at war with The God Almighty of The Bible.

2 John 1
9 Whoever transgresses[d] and does not abide in the doctrine of Christ does not have God. He who abides in the doctrine of Christ has both the Father and the Son. 10 If anyone comes to you and does not bring this doctrine, do not receive him into your house nor greet him; 11 for he who greets him shares in his evil deeds.

This  “love” has even crept into the church. Sin and false teaching is overlooked under the guides of “love”, acceptance and not offending anyone.  Leaders and church members involved in known sin or indulging in false teaching are not confronted because they just need “love.”  Apparently, this false definition of love is one that always feels good, is pleasing to the eyes and ears, always brings people together, and brings peace. Well those things can and do happen when operating in Christ’s love, but there is also another reaction that authentic Godly love provokes. The true anointing and power of God alludes us when we will not confront sin and/or false beliefs that have crept into the church among us.  A little lie mixed in with truth, makes it no longer truth and left unchecked, the lie takes over.

God’s authentic love does not always provoke a warm fuzzy feeling. Many times The love of Christ will separate, divide, agitate, make angry, make enemies.  Many times when you walk in the truth of Christ’s love you will be attacked, falsely accused, made an outcast, and persecuted.  As a matter of fact, beware when everyone praises you.
Luke 6:26 Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets.

Christ’s love requires Truth and His Truth, many times is not received favorably and/ or rejected. Christ was crucified and all the Apostles, but one killed in the name of True Love. They walked in The love of God spreading the gospel and loved not their lives even unto death. They spoke and defended God’s truth, risking their very lives. If you know Jesus you will walk in The authentic Love of Christ, living, teaching, and preaching The One True Gospel of Jesus Christ; no matter what comes.
1 John 1
The Test of Knowing Him
3 Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. 4 He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. 5 But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. 6 He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.

Don’t be fooled by the world’s false love. If you follow Jesus and live by His Word, then like Jesus many will leave you, try to discredit you, attack you, plot against you, and persecute you. When these things start to happen, you may truly be walking in The Love of The One True God. Just like in the days of Christ, The truth is rejected more often than received.
Matthew 10
Christ Brings Division
34 “Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. 35 For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; 36 and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’[e] 37 He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. 38 And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. 39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.

Narrow is the gate that leads to salvation and broad is the way to destruction. Telling people the truth, of sin, satan, hell, death, Christ, death-burial-resurrection and salvation is true love. How can we call ourselves Christ followers, see someone living in the bondage of sin, false religion and not share the gospel; for fear of what they may think of us? Authentic love is knowing they may reject the truth, but telling them anyway.  After that, it’s between them and God.  We plant and water, but God gives the increase. Beware of the world’s false definition of God’s love, their “love” does fail. It is only His true love that has The power to set the captives free.
Matthew 7
The Narrow Way
13 “Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. 14 Because[a] narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.

The authentic love which is Christ’s love,  It never fails.
The first characteristic of love in first Corinthians chapter 13 is suffering.
“4 Love suffers long and is kind” This text informs us that if we truly walk in Christ’s love we will suffer. It will not be all roses, daisies, cool whip, and fun. It is loving people as God has called us to love, walking in Holiness and truth.  Do not let the enemy deceive you into believing God’s love will always feel nice and comfortable, whether you are on the giving end or receiving end. Therein lies the deception, so anytime we are confronted with His truth and we feel uncomfortable, the truth bringer is now accused of not walking in “love” and we cry offense. All because we secretly revile truth. The flesh does not like truth. The way the bible describes John The Baptist, I’m sure he would be accused of not “walking in love” in our modern times.  He would be accused of “judging.” The accuser of the brethren, hard at work to intimidate the bringer of Christ’s truth to be quiet for fear of offending others. Do not be deceived, continue to walk boldly in the authentic love of Christ, speaking the truth, contending for the faith and trying every spirit to see if it be truly of God. (1 John 4:1)

A dog who brings a bone, will carry a bone…


Oh my, how the lips love to move, a curling of the tongue, a wink of the eye, and a pounding heart of excitement.  Be watchful of those who come to you with juicy information and slander.  Gossip and slander has ruined more families, reputations, businesses, and relationships.  It is such an insidious sin that infects the weak.  Yes, I said the weak…  What kind of person would want to hear someone bad mouthing another human being?  It is our sinful nature that would either slander or sit and listen to slander of another person.

Proverbs 16:28

The Message (MSG)

28 Troublemakers start fights;
    gossips break up friendships.

I heard a saying years ago, “A dog who brings a bone, will carry a bone.”  This simply means that if someone comes to you telling the business of another or slandering another, you can be sure that same person will do the same to you.  If someone comes to you slandering another, that person will also slander you.

I absolutely abhor slandering or talking bad about someone else!  It makes me instantly not trust the person slandering.  I go even a step further to let the slanderer know how wrong it is and that I care not to hear it!!  I go a step further and suggest that they confront the person they feel has harmed them.  We should also call the person out as a group if they persist on bringing division among us!   That may sound controversial to some of you because we live in a day where we are PC and deathly afraid of offending anyone.  Sorry, but the truth is often offensive.  Exposing darkness is not an offense, it is a responsibility.  If we truly love God, we will hate what He hates.

Proverbs 6:16-19

New King James Version (NKJV)

16 These six things the Lord hates,
Yes, seven are an abomination to Him:
17 A proud look,
A lying tongue,
Hands that shed innocent blood,
18 A heart that devises wicked plans,
Feet that are swift in running to evil,
19 A false witness who speaks lies,
And one who sows discord among brethren.


Do not fool yourselves, if someone will sit and secretly say bad things about someone to you, they will do the same with them about you.  


Now, I am not talking about being genuinely concerned about a matter and confiding in a friend or getting counsel for direction or accountability.  This approach is a healthy part of conflict resolution concerning relationships.  I am specifically addressing gossip, rumors, slander, and bringing division among people.  This kind of person is like a cancer to any group and/or community.  If you were to get to the root of the slanderer, you will usually find: anger, bitterness, insecurities, need for control, jealousy, and/or resentments.  Therefore, it is fair to say that the gossip or slanderer is sick themselves and in need of healing, but instead of facing their own sickness, they operate in a spirit of strife, criticism of others, and judgement of others.  They are the finger pointers.  What does the bible say about these type of people?

Proverbs 20:19

New Living Translation (NLT)

19 A gossip goes around telling secrets,
    so don’t hang around with chatterers.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

English Standard Version (ESV)

Godlessness in the Last Days

3 But understand this, that (A)in the last days there will come times of difficulty. 2 For people will be (B)lovers of self,(C)lovers of money, (D)proud, (E)arrogant, abusive, (F)disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 (G)heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, (H)not loving good, 4 treacherous, reckless, (I)swollen with conceit, (J)lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having the appearance of godliness, but (K)denying its power.(L)Avoid such people.

That is right, the bible says AVOID SUCH PEOPLE.  In 1 Corinthians chapter 5 Paul talks about ignoring sin among brothers an sisters in Christ.  We are not to ignore for fear of offending someone.  We are to uphold righteousness.  If someone persist in sin and it is clearly a character defect and they refuse accountability and/or correction, then we must avoid such a brother or sister.  If more of us were to not tolerate and expose this sinful behavior, the gossipers and slanderers would be convicted and possibly get with God to change.  As long as this is an acceptable behavior, they feel it is okay to continue. Just recently, I had someone who started to talk ill of another person and I shut them DOWN!  I mean they started to say awful things about another person and it made my stomach literally churn.  Well needless to say, I do not believe this slanderer will EVER come to me with any ill words ever again and I say GOOD!!  We must have courage to speak truth in love.  Why are we more afraid of what man thinks than what God has commanded?

Ephesians 4:29

English Standard Version (ESV)

29 (A)Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give (B)grace to those who hear.

We are supposed to love one another and speak kindly towards others.  If we can’t find anything nice to say, like we learned as children, then don’t say anything at all.  We are supposed to believe the best in all people.  If you really feel a person is in error, go to that person and have the courage to tell them face-to-face.  It is not your job to expose them to others and start a smear campaign.  Pray for them and if they need to be brought down, God will do it.

Titus 3:2

English Standard Version (ESV)

2 (A)to speak evil of no one, (B)to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and (C)to show perfect courtesy toward all people.

Look at King David in the book of 1 Samuel 26:7-11

David would not harm Saul even though Saul was wrongfully seeking to kill David…

1 Samuel 26:7-11

The Message (MSG)

7 So David and Abishai entered the encampment by night, and there he was—Saul, stretched out asleep at the center of the camp, his spear stuck in the ground near his head, with Abner and the troops sound asleep on all sides.

8 Abishai said, “This is the moment! God has put your enemy in your grasp. Let me nail him to the ground with his spear. One hit will do it, believe me; I won’t need a second!”

9 But David said to Abishai, “Don’t you dare hurt him! Who could lay a hand on God’s anointed and even think of getting away with it?”

10-11 He went on, “As God lives, either God will strike him, or his time will come and he’ll die in bed, or he’ll fall in battle, but God forbid that I should lay a finger on God’s anointed. Now, grab the spear at his head and the water jug and let’s get out of here.”


If you have been hurt and you confide in one person as a part of your healing process, that is appropriate, but it is never appropriate to start talking bad of and telling anyone who will listen about the person who hurt you and how horrible they are.  We are supposed to love and love covers, love does not slander.  David could have slandered Saul and even killed him, but he showed respect to whom God loves.  As much as you are hurting because someone has hurt you, remember God loves that person just as much as He loves you.  Pray for them, so not to allow your heart to become bitter.

Matthew 5:44

New King James Version (NKJV)

44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,[a]


1 Peter 4:8

English Standard Version (ESV)

8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since (A)love covers a multitude of sins.